Traveling with someone you have just started dating may seem like something really spontaneous and whimsical. For the most part, this truly is the case. However, there are a few challenges in relationships that arise even in an idyllic setting meant to relax you, like a vacation on the beach or a sightseeing tour. Here are a few tips on dealing with a new flame on your travels.
Set Out a Budget
It is amazing how many couples, even the veteran ones, fight over money. It’s likely not a matter of not having enough, but of frivolous spending of it that drives either you or your partner crazy. Setting aside a budget for take-out, attractions, souvenirs, transport, and sites will ensure that you and your loved one are not going to kill each other regarding what you need to see and buy.
Plan the Trip Together
Traveling for you and your new partner may not mean the same thing. Without putting anyone at fault, there could be some very vocal misunderstandings as to what traveling really is. For example, you want to go to just one location and check in person why is New Orleans called the Big Easy, while your partner likes to hop from one city to the next and cover as many as possible. Perhaps you want to see all the sites in the limited time you have at the location, whereas your partner wants to sample the local cuisine in the restaurants, or vice versa. The same goes for situations where one of you thinks it would be pragmatic to catch the bus, while the other insists on the romantic carriage ride. You should know that this trip involves two people and it should be comfortable for both of you.
Unless you are following your partner on a business trip or somewhere that involves a lot of meetings and we are indeed talking about a real vacation, tour, or exploration, being spontaneous, whimsical, and playful is encouraged. Take silly pictures, try out some attractions that are not suited for your age, go on hikes, and enjoy life. If you have a playful side and believe your partner does too, now is the perfect chance to show it. Just don’t overdo it.
It’s Okay to Be Alone and Together
You are not breaking up with someone every time you want to have 5 minutes to yourself and the same goes for your partner. Make sure you understand each other’s need for privacy and quiet time. Be open to the possibility that one of you wants to explore the city while the other needs to recharge. It is okay not to be joined at the hip as a couple.
Unfortunately, this has to be said. There is a chance that you would not finish this journey together. If that should happen, you need to have a few backups stored, like a bit of extra cash, and the option of rescheduling or repurchasing your return trip. Breakups are often mature, but they can get petty and ugly at times. Make sure you are prepared for anything that might arise. Again, in most cases, people are mature enough to not make it an issue.